Caregiving isn't a trap...
It's a choice.
Do you feel trapped in your role as a caregiver to someone you hardly recognize anymore? Are you lonely, overwhelmed and frustrated?
Not getting enough play, self-expression, intimacy, help from family, career fulfillment, sleep, or ME time?
You don't have to settle for losing who you are as you set aside your life to care for someone you love anymore.
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Home of the Unknown Soldier:
How Coming Back Became the Other Ultimate Sacrifice
Our veterans were willing to die for freedom. Thankfully they came home. Families are grateful for the safe return of their heroes.
Until they see the changes. Many couples struggle to stay together through substance abuse, mental illness, depression, PTSD, physical injury and illness. Our veterans and their caregivers are paying "the other ultimate sacrifice" of learning to love each other again, finding purpose and joy in their new paradigm, and refusing to give in to judgment, shame and hopelessness.
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Caregivers Living Abundantly
Caregivers live abundantly when they learn the difference between self-pity and self-compassion. Many people will tell you that caregiving is mind-numbing, soul-sucking, life-draining agony. It honestly doesn’t have to be that way, but it can be if that’s what you want.
Self-compassion is about learning to notice your thoughts about yourself and your many responsibilities, your feelings those beliefs create, and the results you’re having - without judgment, blame, or criticism. The road to self-pity and remaining a victim is optional. I hope you’ll choose self-compassion.Join the Free Community here!
What do you want?
When I ask caregivers what they would do with more ME time if money were not an obstacle, many of them say “respite” or “vacation.”
That’s our worn out body and overwhelmed brain, thinking a vacation is the answer.
While respite, time out, and vacations are lovely, what humans really want is to feel rested, happy, and purposeful (not the kind of purposeful you’re probably overloaded with right now) the kind where you love your work and play, and it loves you back.
Emerging from victim mode, where I lived for many years, I discovered possibilities I hadn’t dared to consider for fear of being overwhelmed, disappointed, or rejected. My new skills provided a fresh paradigm of possibilities, hope, and confidence, and I know the same can happen for you.
If you can’t believe it yourself, lean on my belief in you, and take a step into the unknown. Learn more.Work With Me
Caregiver and Health Coach
I coach caregivers to practice the most vital self-care - emotional health. I teach simple, effective tools that transformed my life and relationship with my husband, a veteran with PTSD induced schizophrenia. He’s delusional. Every. Day.
I also help my mom care for my dad, who has Parkinson’s disease. Abundant caregiving isn’t about having a positive attitude and pretending everything is fine when it isn’t. It’s about figuring out your life, what you want, and what you deserve. It’s about getting the help you need because someone in your shoes knows your struggles and how to overcome them.
Sharing the Journey With You.Learn More About Me